Have you ever felt like there’s an emptiness in your life? A certain nagging dissatisfaction? A longing for something unnamed?
You try to fill the void by overindulging in pleasurable acts, like shopping, eating, drinking, sex…the problem is that the hole has no bottom, it is infinite. For a while you are satisfied with the temporary relief these pleasures bring, but when the pleasure wears off, you’re back where you were, empty.
You’re not alone. The Buddhists have a name for this behavior; they call it grasping. …and yes, as you may have guessed, it’s futile. So what to do now? Well, you could continue to ignore the problem and wait for yourself to be swallowed by the black hole you’ve created, or you could get to the root of the problem. Easier said than done, huh?
Only a strong person can take an honest look at themselves. Confronting our inner demons is no small task. Letting go of excuses is imperative, it is what it is. Just as important is the letting go of judgment. Be kind to yourself. What is done is done. Now is the time to understand, detach from the problem, heal and move on.
You can do this. You’re stronger than you think.
If this is a subject that interests you, check out my book, “The Red Speck”. The book is an allegory, not a straightforward self help book. Couched in the allegory is a path that helped me tremendously. You might also find this article on neuroplasticity helpful.
Good luck on your journey. Take some relief in knowing many others have walked this path and survived, why not you?